Commonly Asked Questions.

This is O/our opportunity to meet each other before going into a session where W/we get to explore and discuss in further detail your interests and fantasies, privacy and confidentiality needs, experience (both positive/negative & personal/professional), preferences for markings and pain tolerance, outfits, themes, soft & hard limits, all areas of health awareness and limitations, and any other considerations W/we may discover together. My favorite part is that I get to see you agonize in anticipation for O/our personally created shared time together. In general, I prefer to have the meet and greet and session on a separate day so that I can plan, set up My space accordingly, and step into My inspired Lady Ravyn session headspace. However, if you are from out of town or both of O/our schedules permit it, W/we can definitely discuss the alternative. Because I also provide sex/relationship counseling to certain clients and couples, consent forms and other areas of importance may be discussed. With respect to you, your information will always be kept confidential.

This is case by case (session by session), and depends entirely on O/our interests combined, personal financial situation, and available time for each other! Session times range from one hour, to booked afternoons/evenings, to several days with overnights. From My perspective, the more time W/we get to share together (ongoing relationships), the more space W/we have to develop trust and travel down O/our fabulous, kinky rabbit hole. With that in mind, I will always respect O/our schedules and understand that W/we all live fluctuating, busy adult lives. xo

With respect, most likely not darling. It is a rare day that I don’t already have a plan for Myself, I’m a Domme, right? There is no sitting around waiting for a sub/slave in any case. ;) In saying that, I would absolutely adore making time to meet or have a session with you, I honor all of My important connections that way, however, please schedule a time with Me (minimum 24hrs in advance; if I’m available) so that W/we can make sure W/we’re both as emotionally, mentally, spiritually and physically available to see each other as possible.

I am most often open to trying new things and expanding My experience in various ways with My devoted ones! However, with respect, W/we are going to have a much richer time together if you share with Me what you have enjoyed in the past, or a sense of what you think you might enjoy (if you’ve never had a session before/have limited experience), and a solid idea of what you wouldn’t enjoy based on your current self-awareness and life experience. Being self-aware is extremely important in kink and BDSM practice because throughout O/our developing relationship, you are the expert of you and I need to trust that you will be self responsible and mature within O/our dynamic. W/we are putting O/our trust in each other with BOTH of O/our boundaries, O/our consents, O/our bodies, O/our trauma or shadow work, and O/our genuinely vulnerable time together so the more transparency and interest information you can give Me, the better quality of experience W/we will have.

At the meet and greet and throughout O/our ongoing experiences together, I will be mindful of and assess your ability to self-reflect, be honest and transparent with your needs and boundaries with Me, your respectful emotional, physical and mental ability to process and ground with Me in case of unforeseen changes, or an emergency or accident, God forbid, and your character during participation in O/our activities. As much as I will absolutely guide you through O/our time together - once I know your interests, boundaries and what that means for U/us - O/our inspiration is a healthy feedback loop of ideas and fantasies shared between two (or more) consenting adults. It always takes two to tango so I will expect you to be My muse! Lastly, I can promise you without-a-doubt that you are NOT okay with everything, you are an individual slave/submissive and W/we will treat you as such. Still unsure of your boundaries, darling? Journal about it, explore online, through forums and demonstrations, use your imagination to fantasize a scene, reflect on your history and/or trauma, do a mindful body scan, watch My online slave training videos - genuinely check in with yourself about who you are and present your deepest self to Me.

That is a loaded and privileged question - My favorite kind to play with. I adore a submissive that tries endlessly to earn their keep with Me. What that means changes - you’ll have to check in that day. ;) That’s part of what keeps you on your toes. What I have listed on My website for activities and experiences I’m willing to facilitate for a sub/slave are truly personal interests of Mine developed over years of personal and professional play, discovery and research. Fact about Me; I would never offer or do something I am not truly interested in or didn’t want to do. I am a Goddess, W/we both can trust that. I am also the biggest weirdo, self proclaimed, and adore every second of how fun and inspired My mind can get. I always have, and as an experimentalist (darling, W/we all are) I enjoy making life My playground.

I do adore many activities surrounding kink/BDSM intimacy and recognize that it can look a million different ways and from person to person. On one day, I would very much enjoy a well prepared meal. With appetizers, My favorite drink, music playing in the background so that I can dance around, My favorite meal prepared perfectly to My liking. Afterwards, fetch Me a cozy blanket, dessert and a quality foot massage on the couch by the fire… tell Me stories and treat Me. On another day, I would very much enjoy practicing My skills of calculated risk using whips, straps and floggers… Like nature and the Goddess I am, I honor My cyclical self expression and intrigue.

First of all, I will always encourage further personal research and exploration on this topic to understand where you stand with these definitions and understandings. This is a topic that I can personally talk about all day so I will try to give it to you in a nutshell, darling! The terms W/we use called sadism and masochism were coined by German psychiatrist, Richard Von Krafft-Ebing in his book Psychopathia Sexualis. The BDSM community most often describes sadism as deriving sexual or psychological pleasure from; feelings of power/authority/control, inflicting pain/cruelty, and the adversity of another consenting adult - and masochism as obtaining sexual or psychological pleasure from receiving pain sensations, cruelty or control inflicted by another consenting adult. These personalities usually go hand in hand as they are complimentary forms of behavior. British psychologist Havelock Ellis promoted the interpretation that they were closely related concepts and formed the modern conception of sadomasochism (SM). The Kama Sutra, which is one of the earliest and most beautifully written descriptions of human sexuality awareness, not only compares sexual relations to a quarrel, but also explains a range of embraces and activities including scratching, biting, striking, where and how to administer these embraces, as well as the different, fun and fabulous sounds that will result. When you research for yourself, you will find that BDSM/SM practitioners are typically well-adjusted, empathetic, self-aware humans who are comfortable with their sexual preferences and seek safe, consentual experiences. Always play safe darlings!

Now whether you ‘need to be a masochist’ to see Me - pain therapy is a large part of what I do, but it’s not everything so it's definitely not mandatory! you don’t have to be drooling for pain to come play with Lady Ravyn - there are so many sensations, interests and kinks to play and have fun with! I also provide an arrangement of services to explore - you’ll see when you check out the page: My Experience. xo For example, it is similar for a masochist slave and a slutty sissy submissive when taking on a role of subjugation and/or helplessness with their sadist or Domme. It can offer the same release from life-stress, or the burden of responsibility or guilt. It can also invoke valuable infantile feelings of vulnerability and dependency, which can serve as a proxy for intimacy and offer healing or feeling seen and validated. My sessions are sacred and safe spaces in this way. My submissives, littles, sissies, slaves and masochists of all kinds similarly derive pleasure from earning My approval most of all. Commanding their full attention and controlling their time and space makes them My happy campers. That’s the head space I adore exploring, darling. ;)